The abused and traumatized who sit among us on Sundays can be further traumatized when we preach forgiveness without care. This workshop reviews what forgiveness is and what it is not, reviews problematic exegesis of relevant scriptures, and offers practical suggestions on preaching to the "sinned-against." Real-life cases will be used to show how theology can address issues of a "traumatized brain" through appropriate understandings of forgiveness. Finally, it will make a radical suggestion that can help the abused connect to God.